Bringing Back Pastimes
One of the more depressing parts of a chronic illness is thinking about the past. I have had many hobbies that I used to do and feel like I may never get back to them. Sometimes, when I think about them, it’s not because of my condition, it’s because it was in the past. Chronic conditions can bring out memories that are very happy and quickly turn them into something negative or sad. Don’t fall victim to your thoughts on this topic. The pastime hobbies you had are just as great now as when you did or could do them. Be happy you were able to do them and be happy you have new pastimes you can make right now.
I used to play a lot of sports. The main sport I played was street hockey. We actually had a league that played on feet rather than roller blades or ice skates. I had a lot of fun and know it’s something I could never do again. Does that make me sad? No, it doesn’t. Why should it? I had a lot of fun doing it and I have moved on. I am ok with the fact I will never do that again. I loved playing sports, still would if I could, but am happy I was able to do it when I did. If you think about it, we won’t be able to do the same things forever. Eventually, I was going to be at a point where I can’t do things physically like I could when I was younger.
Another pastime I had is gardening. I still garden like it’s my job, which maybe if I am lucky, it will be one day. Right now, sadly, it’s not. How can this be a pastime if I still do it today? Well, I don’t do it with my parents anymore, which were some great memories. I will never go back to that. I can perform the act, but the conditions in which it happens will always be different.
However, I am creating a new pastime right now with my own kids. In the future, hopefully, they will remember this and it will be a pastime they can never get back but will be happy they did it when they could. I will feel the same way. I will wish I could have it back but never be upset I can’t because I am living it now and it’s amazing.
Making memories today
As you can see, there are two different pastimes. Ones that you used to do and will probably never be able to do again, and ones that you can still do today, but the conditions in which it happens are different.
The point I am trying to make is that you can never go back to the past. At some point in life, you have to accept you can’t do something or you can’t get back what you used to do. What you can do is start creating new pastimes now.
Being aware that today, tomorrow, and every day in the future, you or someone you care about could be creating a pastime memory right now, so be happy and make it a good one. You can’t travel back to the past, but you can influence the past by making today as great as possible.
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