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Dating and Relationships

Has heart failure impacted dating and/or relationships in your life? Share your experience, approach, or perspectives here.

  1. I would like to date but I also could have Sudden Death. I wouldn't want to do that to someone. Also with chronic fatigue I don't have the energy to be a fun partner.

    1. Thank you for sharing! I can also say from personal experience, from a cardiac perspective I am no picnic...I did meet somebody about 5 years ago and I was honest about where I'm at, and it fits with his limitations, desires and lifestyle, hobbies, existing friendship circle, etc. My only point is do not sell yourself short. If you want a companion, I would remain open to the possibility if the right fit comes along. Connection goes a long way😀 Morgan (heart-failure.net Moderator)

    2. I've struggled with this before when I was first diagnosed. I thought who would want to be with someone with a heart condition? Then I thought why am I selling myself so short when there are beautiful, caring souls who will fall in love with you as a person? Heart failure symptoms aren't easy to deal with, but that doesn't mean people aren't interested in being with us. Please don't throw the idea of companionship away if you don't want to. I wish you all the best! -Olivia

  2. You're sweet. Thank you.

    1. I'm glad my comments brought you a smile. They are all true though - my partner just fits my limitations. Not to say that my issues would mesh well with everyone, far far from it. But, don't stop putting yourself out there because you are assuming that nobody is up for the challenge! There are men out there who do not scare easily. Morgan (heart-failure.net Moderator)

  3. I have given up on that idea. No libido or erection. I've also lost a lot of weight and don't like the way my body looks, too skinny. I've accepted the situation. Anyway, you don't need a partner to be happy...it's often overrated 😀

    1. Those all sound like great ways to experience joy! Morgan (heart-failure.net Moderator)

    2. Thanks sharing here. I'm glad that you are able to focus on the positives in your relationship. All the best, Lauren (team member)

  4. I had a friend who wanted to be my boyfriend & would stop by to visit. I told him about my HF diagnosis & haven't seen him since. You find out who your real friends are.

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