Dying

sorry to hear this. It is very lonely when our people don’t or can’t be understanding. Especially with something as serious as HF. I strongly urge you to ask doctors, nurses, or your insurance how to connect with a therapist. One of the things our family did get out of our family heart disease is to find ways to communicate as best we can about what we want each other to know. Having a disease where one can literally be here one minute and dead the next taught us how to share communication. No one wants to go without first being able to make yourself clear. Such as telling each other we love them, giving information we want known, maybe explaining some things. I encourage you to do whatever you need to do beforehand even if it’s writing things out by hand or typing, identifying any bequeaths, setting up a package or packet of end of life whatnots. I’m not making light of this situation. It is serious. But I don’t let anyone else’s hangups, difficulties, or refusal stop me from being ready myself to die. Talking to a therapist helped me identify what is important for me regardless. Anyone who is not ready to hear it I’ve left letters and packages just so that’s one thing I know will happen after I go. It helped me deal with sudden loss of someone and the possibility constantly hanging over everyone’s heads. I’m hear if yours like someone to listen.


All that does not make living with HF any better but it did make things easier for me to deal with and feel like I’ve regained at least a modicum of control back.

I am a psychotherapist so have the skills to understand others. I'm busy preparing for my new adventure and quite alert, so writing letters to loved ones and watching the dying process. It would be nice if those in the home acknowledged this adventure but my family admitted denial! It will happen, regardless!

Hi , it sounds like you’re dealing with really overwhelming emotions right now. Reaching out isn’t always easy. I’m glad you feel comfortable sharing your feelings here. We understand -- the pain people endure is not always visible to others. I know life is hard right now, but we’re here for you. Feel free to reach out to us if you need to. -Jessica, Team Member