Heart failure.

My husband ended up back in hospital 12 days ago amongst critical heart and medical issues he had Sepsis shock for the second time, we were told he only had hours to live and call the family in which I did immediately. He made ut through the night on iv fluids and antibiotics. We were told my husband had signed forms in the hospital in February no CPR no ventilator and no invasive treatment if he ends up in hospital again which was a shock to us all he never discussed this with us. To cut a long story short the doctor call me in last Friday to have a talk with my husband and myself together. He is dying it could be a few weeks or a couple of months. Even if he signed another form for CPR etc and they performed it and got his heart started again he will be in a vegative state on life support till we tell them to switch it off as there will be no recovery or improvement. It was a complete shock I didn't know he was that bad and the hospital were shocked when he arrived in emergency because the thought he would have passed away since he was last admitted in February. He didn't tell us what the doctors had told him now he is angry that I know the whole situation. He is taking his prognosis out on me we are all devastated and are just trying to make happy memories as much as we can. He has started gaining weight again and the cough has started and his blood glucose levels are all over the place a lot of HI Keytones but won't go back to hospital and his BP keeps dropping down. Unfortunately my husband is extremely stubborn and won't do what is needed for him. Thankyou to everyone who has replied I truly thank you all each and everyone of you it has been great knowing people do care and care about me also. It's a hard road we have been through so much this year more so with his heart and other medical problems to now having to accept he isn't going to be here soonish when he has been with me being married for 40 years. If only he looked after himself better went to the hospital or GP all the numerous times we were telling him we will take him because we all knew how sick he was but he refused outright everytime. Now he just doesn't care anymore but it's affecting all of us. Thankyou everyone I wish you all the best and pray you all keep as healthy as you can and see your GP even if you feel a little off.

Good morning. I'm truly sorry to hear about the challenges you and your husband are facing. Your strength and dedication during this difficult time are truly admirable. It's clear that you've been doing your best to support him and make meaningful memories together. Remember that emotions can be complex, and people might express them differently in moments of distress. Your care and concern shine through your words, and your efforts to provide comfort and understanding are remarkable. Wishing you strength, cherished moments, and the support you need during this journey. And, again, If there is anything we can assist you with, please let me or any other moderator / team member know. John. heart-failure.net community moderator