I’m sorry to hear that your husband has to undergo open heart surgery in the future. It’s definitely difficult experience to undergo as a family as well. Mixed emotions arise before, during, and even after surgery. Directly after open heart surgery patients may experience a period depression, anxiety, and or even anger or rage because of things such as not being able to do the simplest things like sitting up in bed or putting on one’s pants without pain or discomfort in completing the task. My advice is to have patience with him, ask for help from family members, friends, or even a therapist for yourself or your husband or the both of you if needed. Leslie ( Community Moderator)